Postpartum weight loss pressure is toxic and can be dangerous

 

Postpartum weight loss pressure is toxic and can be dangerous

 

One of my favourite mom blogger, Heather from @mothermoonstruck shared this picture on her stories from @feedinglittles and I just couldn’t shake the outrage I felt the more I thought about it.

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After only a couple days of giving birth to my Instagram account inbox BLEW up with these messages from women promoting postpartum weight loss, diet pills, keto coffee, programs, shakes ,wraps, you name it.

Most messages I just didn’t respond to and a lot I made the point of saying that I wasn’t interested in loosing my baby weight at the moment but thanks anyway. Man now reading this and truly taking the time to reflect back at how frustrating it was to constantly get those messages and honestly the insensitive or the lack of knowledge and experience regarding “health and nutrition” now blows my mind.

I’m a constant advocate of women supporting each other and being kind to one another and the more times that I read this picture that was shared the more I realized that this is a topic we should be discussing even at a level as high as challenging Instagram’s Community Guidelines regarding harassment and bullying.

I felt EXTREMELY harassed by these women trying to sell their pyramid scheme products to me constantly throughout my day and now having many unfiltered conversations with other mothers and women regarding this issue I will completely back that it is 100% bullying.

For the rest of my life I will be in a constant battle and working towards living a happy, fulfilled and balanced life with my Depression, Anxiety Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and currently Postpartum Depression.

I know that if I didn’t have the support I had when I first gave birth to my son and wasn’t as balanced as I was hormonally and mentally, these messages would have severely affected my confident and inner thoughts.

As a new mom you are already dealing with SO much emotionally and mentally and are getting used to yourself, this new body that created this perfect angel, but everything is foreign and everything is really tough , stop adding one more thing to push a women off the edge mentally and can be harmful for her health , mentally and physically.

When thinking about writing this piece I reached out to my followers (mostly made up of the most AMAZING women and mothers) and a few mom bloggers who I knew would have awesome opinions and stories to share to help spark confidence and inspire us to love ourselves just the way we are!

Jessica Chiarello is a first time mom to a beautiful baby girl, Valentina. I reached out to Jessica to see if she would be interested in giving her advice and opinion on this subject being a fitness professional and focusing on her clients health before weight loss.

The biggest issue that I have with these women contacting us about weight loss is that there is such a lack of knowledge about the health aspect and no ounce of gueniune caring and support on the subject. You feel that its all about the bottom line ad the sales pitch and I’m sorry we aren’t here for that.

When you are feeling ready to dedicate some more self care and time to work on yourself mind and body, please reach out to professionals, who are educated and have good intentions about your health and well being, like Jessica does.

This is the piece Jessica wrote :

As a new mother and a health and fitness professional, I know the importance of postpartum recovery. Not only physically but mentally. The last thing a woman needs after giving birth is to have someone making them feel like they need to lose weight with a magic pill, tea, wrap or whatever product that is trying to be pushed. It is a time to recover and nourish your body. Not time to be looking for a quick fix or trying the next fad diet. Eating healthy, whole foods, proper rest and slowly integrating the right types of exercise for postpartum recovery is what the focus should be.

I personally haven’t been bombarded with too many messages as such. Probably because my Instagram bio states that I am a trainer so these companies know not to bug me! I do however get all sorts of offers to join groups or teams so I can “help” other women (or jump on the next pyramid scheme band wagon) which is just as annoying! Although social media can be a great place to advertise and promote any business, I think it’s time we shed light on this issue and let women know that they don’t need to fall into these traps when they are in one of the most fragile states of their lives.

If you’re seeking guidance, my best suggestion is do your research and look for a coach with experience who can make a custom game plan for you based on your specific needs and goals. They should be based off your personal stats including weight, height, activity level, health history etc.. If a coach isn’t screening you first and asking these kinds of questions, that should be your first red flag. There are so many “coaches” out there who sell generic programs, meal plans or other products that claim to get you results in an unrealistic timeframe. In reality, weight loss should be the last thing you’re worried about after giving birth. If you’re taking care of your body and eating well, the weight will naturally start to come off in good time. Your main concern should be repairing your pelvic floor and core muscles and stretching as I elaborate on in my most recent blog post: https://fitmamasblog.com/

As for anyone else being targeted for fat loss gimmicks, keep in mind that if you’re just starting off, a trainer should be helping you learn how to move properly and perform primal movements correctly before decreasing body fat % or building muscle as the primary focus. Yes, these are the result of eating well and exercising but the main focus at first should be mobility and proper movement patterns.

All that being said, don’t feel pressured to lose weight because you’ve been targeted with this type of cyber bullying. Be kind to yourself and love your body no matter what.

Jessica Chiarello
Personal Trainer and Lifestyle Coach

Blog: https://fitmamasblog.com/

Instagram : @fitmamasblog

 

I also reached out to Heather from @mothermoonstruck, who shared this post on her Instagram. I loved her point of view and opinion on the subject and she was more then willing to be apart of this important conversation.

This is the piece that Heather wrote:

I’m very thankful that I’m mentally strong and I’m able to just brush this targeting off without another thought. I’ve been solicited dozens of times during my two pregnancies and post partum periods and it sickens me every time. My heart goes out to the women who are struggling postpartum and aren’t able to just brush it off. Pregnancy and early postpartum are such an emotionally hard time and especially when women have issues with PPD or are working out issues with their partner or families, this type of targeting can be so detrimental to their healing and mental state. It is absolutely not okay for someone to tell a woman that they are not good enough when it comes on their body or anything else. THIS is exactly why women can develop eating disorders, low self-esteem, and why they can end up passes these things onto their children as they grow.

Heather.

Blog: mothermoonstruck.com

Instagram: @mothermoonstruck

 

I recently started following Kristyn from @mrsdingman.mama for her AMAZING attitude towards loving her post partum body and she wrote a piece for this post!

 

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Kristyn wrote:

Many people can relate to the daily messages sent by coaches, ambassadors and others who target those of us who promote positive body images. Every day, a new business reaches out to get me to join their weight loss program (aka pyramid scheme). Sure, you have a business to run and it’s your job to seek out potential clients, but at what cost? Why do you feel the need to prey on women who are empowering themselves? It has come to a point where it’s not just annoying — it’s extremely insulting. If these people did some research and were genuinely interested in getting my business, they should take a look at ONE of my posts which clearly expresses how in love I am with who I am. Every curve, stretch mark and pound I have is something to celebrate and is worth so much more than your diet pill and shakes. I am enough and I love the skin I’m in.

Kristyn.

Blog: mrsdingman-mama.weebly.com

Instagram: @mrsdingman.mama

 

 

I had many women message me that preferred to stay anonymous, that said how upset these messages and proposals to loss weight make them. One of my friends who’s a nurse and 7 months pregnant already has been propositioned to buy product that she said in her pitch “snap back” right after birth, my friend told her to fuck off!

The thing is some women who are selling this products I’m sure don’t have bad intentions and are just trying to make extra income to support their families and hit sales quotas, but in the end I think an open discussion is overdue with Instagram sharing how detrimental  this can be to women’s mental health.

I propose that anytime we receive one of these messages in our inbox’s and it evokes feelings that are anything but support, body confidence and health based, report the message and account for harassment and bullying.

I’m looking forward to this journey I’ve started to completely LOVING and being KIND to my wonderful body that gave me our son!

I’m partnering with an AMAZING mom of three and entrepreneur Denne, owner of Endless Temptation’s a fabulous ETSY store.

https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/EndlessTemptations

I’m sooooo sad I didn’t find her shop while I got engaged for my bridesmaids gifts , they are stunning and at SUCH good price points. She has beautiful robes and swimsuits that can be customised ( again at AMAZING prices) for us mama bears!

These are the two swim suits Denne so gracious is gifting me for my upcoming trips down south and I working on getting up the courage to rock this bikini with the confidence of Queen B herself!

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In the next coming months I will be starting a body positive campaign showcasing real life Ottawa moms, their beautiful post partum bodies with their beautiful babies beside.

Get your post partum swim suits now and contact me to join this movement and join in on our photoshoot campaign to help empower all those gorgeous worthy mamas out their who may be struggling with their new mama self image!

 

 

 

 

Medical Assistance In Dying (M.A.I.D) takes love, courage and bravery like none other

Medical Assistance In Dying

(M.A.I.D)

My grandmother Silvana Santarelli was diagnosed with terminal cancer just five weeks ago and since that time and watching a loved one rapidly decline in health and spirit, it makes you start looking at life in a different lens.

My Grandmother was nothing short of the epidemy of someone who has lived their life to the fullest and truly lived in the moment. So much of her life was like a beautiful novel, filled with love of family, friends, travel, culture, music, laughter and romance. I can honestly say that I have never met anyone in my life who truly lived as my grandmother did. She saw so much of the world, spoke many languages, married a handsome Canadian in the army and then moved to Canada to live the Canadian dream raising three truly amazing humans (one of which is my wonderful mom). She spent the better part of her life working in customer service and truly impacted everyone who she came into contact with for the better.

Five weeks ago my grandmother was taken to the hospital by my aunt due to pain in her shoulder and that’s when she was given the news that no one wants to ever hear muttered from a doctor, that she had cancer, or as she put it “I have the big C”. The following days were full of tests to determine a prognosis and to what degree had the cancer spread. Unfortunately the news wasn’t good news and she was told that the cancer had spread into most of her vital organs and it was terminal, with only a few more weeks to live.

Most of us have been effected by cancer or have had a family member effected by cancer. I myself have had a couple scares throughout my life with high concentration of cancerous cells in my uterus, and hearing anything with the word cancer attached is the most frightening words you can ever hear from a doctor.

I now have experienced both sides. I have seen the unbelievable strength, resilience and bravery it takes to fight cancer head on as well as seeing the other side of a terminal diagnoses and how that same unbelievable strength, resilience and bravery applies to Medical Assisted In Death (M.A.I.D).

My grandmothers quality of life had been ripped out from under her so swiftly and in these last five weeks the pain had become unbearable. When there is nothing that can be done to save a life or even make those last weeks that she would have had on this earth more comfortable my grandmother chose to apply for M.A.I.D which was put into place in Ontario in the last few years for these exact circumstances. To allow you to pass away painlessly, peacefully and with your dignity. Seeing a loved one in pain and knowing there is nothing that can be done to relieve it, or make it better is the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced in my life thus far.

Once my grandmother was approved she had 10 days to contemplate and still make the decision to either go through with the procedure to end her life or not to. In those ten days she had good moments, not so good moments ( mostly due to bad reactions to the pain meds) but the pain and suffering was always there, either lingering or loud and in your face. Even until the very moment before the procedure is done the doctor is required by law to ask if you still are sure you want to proceed with the procedure and my grandmother was confident with her decision right till the end. She had lived this beautiful life that she lived her way,and wanted to end it the same, not overpowered by the evils of cancer but with the grace of science to help end her and her families suffering.

The actual hours leading up to the procedure were the most emotional but beautiful moments I’ve ever experienced with my family. We played my grandmothers favourite songs and we all sang and cried together. We laughed at her witty humour and we were able to express all of our gratitude for what our grandmother gave to us all throughout her life.

As I said when you experience something like this you start thinking about life and the end of life and my grandmother passed away in the most beautiful way honouring the beautiful life that she lived, surrounded by her loved ones, and painless in her sleep. What more can you hope and wish for someone you love or for yourself.

In those last moments of my grandmothers life she brought all of her family together in one room supporting each other like we never knew we could before. My cousin and I cried and we breathed together and held each other tight knowing that our grandmother would soon be at peace. Those moments are hard to explain because they are mostly felt. I can still feel the emotion of the doctor, nurses, of my family in that room. I can hear in my head when its silent the song that was playing on shuffle at the time of her passing, “Please Release Me” by Engelbert Humperdnick.

And then you find peace at different moments through your grief.

My grandmother bravely passed away Jan 3, 2019 at 3:50pm at the Queensway Carleton Hospital and when my mother spoke those words I realized that this was the first sign that she would be with me always.

I gave birth directly underneath her room where she passed at the same hospital August 7, 2018 at exactly 3:50am and my original due date was August the 3rd.

I know that for the rest of our lives Silvana will be looking after us and helping lead us in the direction of happiness just as she lived her life.

I am forever grateful for my grandmother gifting me with a life full of the most wonderful family and the wonderful memories we have shared throughout my life.

Thank you to the wonderful Nurses and Doctors who cared for my grandmother with so much care and compassion during the last few weeks of her life, we are forever grateful for you.

 

 

No one warned me I would resent my husband like I do

No one warned me I would resent my husband like I do

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The decision to be with my husband for the rest of my life was a mix between luck, love and smarts. Luck because, in this crazy world with billions of people I found someone whom I wanted to spend all of my good and bad days with for the rest of my life and I found that person after only a few trial and errors. Love because, throughout our ten-year relationship I have proven to myself time and time again that I love this man more then anything. Smarts because, in-between all of the luck and love my husband and I consciously decide to work hard for each other and choose one another everyday and some days more then others, it will take a lot of effort and commitment. We both acknowledge that even on those hard days we are worth it and want to be together.
Throughout our relationship we have gone through our fair share of trials and tribulations as a couple and had those epic, id like to call them battles, game of throne style instead of fights (we started dating when we were really young) but through constantly growing individually and with each other in the last couple years we’ve really found our communication groove. Also, side note, Thomas sits in on my therapy sessions whenever I need him to and its really helped with how we react to each others behaviour and how we understand each others needs.

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I had a pretty shitty pregnancy of feeling horrible for a good 7 months straight. Throughout that time my husband was so patient with me, had to pick up the slack of life’s responsibilities that we would normally share, tend to pretty much my every need, completely renovated a new home from top to bottom, and the list goes on and on really. I’m truly blessed to be with someone who loves me so much and puts forward so much effort to make me happy.
During delivery I got to experience a whole new level of love and support from my husband. I was extremely drugged up (which I highly recommend) on dilaudid and fentanyl in my epidural during my labour so maybe it would have been a different experience if I was more verbally abusive during those moments, who knows, but prob not, he was prepared from myself and many nurses for that delivery abuse! But even though I wasn’t feeling the intense pain in those hours of delivery I will never forget the support and team work we had together bringing our child into the world. After delivery you don’t get an epidural for recovery and mine was really rough and just as he showed throughout my pregnancy and delivery he was there to help in anyway he could.
After I delivered my husband had two weeks off to help me recover, bond with our new baby and start to learn how to navigate this new life together. He did those two weeks with grace, patience, love and so much support.
We are coming into month three of Amadeo being in this world and I’m starting to feel a lot of different emotions for my husband. Yes, the love and all that other stuff is very much there, but I can’t help but constantly feel so much resentment, anger, and frustration towards him as of late.

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I feel like this is really important not only for my self to admit and acknowledge but to talk about opening with other women and have men read this as well. The reason being is that us women have truly been through the fucking ringer. We went through 9 months of our bodies changing, hormones raging and then abusing our bodies with birth once again. Then after this beautiful creature pops out of us it’s a whole new (for me much more intense) ball game of our bodies changing, hormones raging and then abusing our bodies with motherhood. I find myself having a constant internal battle of not feeling anything like myself but feeling more me then I ever have. I find myself wishing for my old life when naps and sleep weren’t a luxury, when I showered every day or took a nice uninterrupted bath if I wanted, when I could prep, cook and clean a meal at whatever time I wanted, when I could go a pick something up from the grocery store and it take 15 minutes total, when I worked and felt like I was adding value to someone else’s life, and then the next minute truly loving this new adventure and all of those things from my old life I don’t want any of it back because of this precious boy whom I cant imagine life without. See the thing that I’ve started to realize is when you take away from the equation of thinking and experiencing these things on your own you realize that most if not all women are feeling this way. Most women are finding this crazy new life really fucking hard and easy and beautiful and ugly and wonderful all at the same time just like you!

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Through therapy I’ve learnt stragies to recognize when I’m using my emotional brain or my rational brain.
It doesn’t seem to matter what my husband does lately I find myself building up this hatred and resentment towards him from the littlest things.
I’m home alone all day with Amadeo that has come off an all night with Amadeo, repeat x 5 and by Friday I’m SOOO angry he’s been at work all day, like really angry wanting him to quit and stay at home with me forever. This scenario that I have been experiencing every week is not only from my emotional brain but the change in my hormones and mental health. When I take a second to turn on my rational brain I can recognize that my husband is the hardest working man I’ve ever met. He cares so much for what he does and to provide the life that we and after working a 5:30 to 6:30 straight day in manual labour he comes home and immediately checks on me and our son, he goes and showers and then right away takes him from my arms so I can make dinner and eat it warm and he does that on repeat x5 and by Friday he’s so excited to be able to give me a break during Friday and Saturday night so I can sleep and he can do more at home with me and our son.
It kills me because even though I have this rational brain that sees and recognizes my amazing husband and what he does, I still end up building this resentment towards him.
This is, and is going to be a constant work in progress to work on myself and getting me more leveled once again. Mental health for most women, especially after pregnancy and birth will be a constant up hill battle, but one that is so worth it. I believe in the power of support, therapy, medication when needed, and just constantly recognizing not being ashamed to admit when your struggling and being aware that there are reasons that you are feeling the way you are feeling, and by putting forth that effort to constantly better yourself will yield results for you to be living a more balanced emotional life.
I brought up this topic at a weekly mommy meet up to see if anyone else could relate and all the other women either have gone through feeling like this towards their husbands in the past or are currently feeling this way now as well. Opening up that dialog made me instantly not feel like I’m the crazy Satanic bitch of a wife and know that it’s a normal hormonal reaction and will get better. In the mean time I will constantly be taking steps back to acknowledge how great of a father and man my husband is, and all he pushes himself to do. When I recognize and see the effort he puts forward I will try my best to verbalize how grateful I am of him and how much happiness he brings to my life.
This crazy life I think is best lived when you can be authentic and put forward and acknowledge your faults and seek help to make things better. You don’t need to do the hard things (motherhood so far is the hardest, and best) all by yourself.
I have a tattoo on my left wrist that I got as a constant reminder to myself that no matter what you are experiencing in your life, this too shall pass.
I am in no way a professional counsellor and I am only speaking from my experience and sharing my opinions. If you want to know more information about the therapists I’ve seen or continue to seek, private message me. I do have amazing counsellors and therapists that I can recommend in the Ottawa area whom I trust and have yielded amazing personal results 😊

Photos by Cesoir Photography

5 Postpartum Care Musts For Mom

5 Postpartum Care Musts for Mom

Okay in all seriousness society doesn’t put enough emphasis on women’s postpartum care. I mean in every way our bodies are a being put through hell during and after pregnancy so in my opinion this needs to change!

What our baby body terrorists put us through during pregnancy;

  • Hormonal changes ( Big ones, that make us nauseas, swell up like Violet Borigard, fluid retention, memory and vision changes, sweats, and so much more…)
  • Weight gain, regardless of the number that we see start increasing on the scale,  your body is GROWING and STRETCHING, like a lot, for 9 long ass months!
  • Sensory changes, vision, taste and smells can all change and become affected.
  • Breast and Cervical changes, breasts grow in size and become more sensitive ( I went from a size 38 DD to a 40 H!)
  • Changes in hair, skin and nails.
  • Stretch Marks (hello warrior scars, I got those in the last week of pregnancy, and I haven’t exactly embraced them yet)
  • Mole, Freckles and skin tags. ( I ripped a small skin tag off my nipple in the shower, do not do that, I repeat do, not rip a skin tag off your nipple, there will be blood!)
  • Rashes, Boils, HEMORRHOIDS ( I had internal hemorrhoids rupture during pregnancy that hurt as much as when I was in labour or worse even!)
  • Circulatory system changes, shortness of breath, feeling dizzy, changes in blood pressure.
  • Changes in body temperature, so fuckin hot or so fuckin cold, there is NO in-between.
  • Dehydration.
  • Circulation issues, I had Vulva Varicosities and was on bed rest from 24 weeks. I know you will probably google that, if you want to save some time it literally is painful varicose veins on your vulva!
  • Gestational Diabetes .
  • And the list goes on and on…..

What our baby body terrorists leave us with when they’ve finally surrendered our bodies back to us

Vaginal Birth(which I had) and Caesarean:

  • Birth Pains, I have endometrioses and these cramps were much worse, its literally your uterus shrinking back to its normal size, its happens very quickly considering it spent a whole 9 months stretching!
  • Blood clots.
  • Breast engorgement or blockages (mastitis)
  • Cracked and bloody nipples.
  • Swelling.
  • Hemorrhoids and severe constipation.
  • Urinary problems.
  • NIGHT SWEATS ( you literally wake up in a pool of water drenched, I recommended sleeping on a towel or better yet a SHAMWOW!)
  • Fatigued ( well that’s an understatement especially depending on post, during and after delivery everyone is different)
  • and again the list goes on and on…..

As you grow closer to your due date, people will suggest things for you to do after you give birth and in your eight ish almost nine month state of mind you will say to yourself, “ya, ya okay I will” well I’m telling you here and now that, YA, YA OKAY YOU NEED TO!

There is so much emphasis put on the baby, I mean yes there does need to be, this little girl or guy is going to need to do ALOT of firsts in those 24 to 48 hours that are crucial for survival I get it, but there needs to ALSO be wayyyyyyy more emphasis on taking care of mom, mind and body, as well as educating on what needs to be done self care wise when they go home. I don’t know if it was just me, but probably the first thirty minutes that I was at home I WANTED TO GO BACK to the hospital and get another epidural for recovery! As a mother we will now and as long as we are living, just automatically be putting everyone else’s needs before our own but during the first couple weeks after birth we need to be selfish, I started almost hemorrhaging because I wasn’t, it can be very serious if you aren’t taking care of yourself!

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In my opinion, these are the 5 most important tips you should be following and practicing postpartum….

*Warning in advance, some of these will be really hard to do because you don’t want to upset or offend anyone, I mean a new baby that’s born is so exciting for not just you but for everyone around in your life, so on that note that I say may the force be with you…..

  1. NO VISITORS!

This will be one of the hardest ones to put into action. My husband and I are both from big Italian families and have an amazingly huge support system. In the first 48 hours of Amadeo being born, in the hospital and when we first got home we had ALOT of visitors. That wasn’t the only issue, it was that we had visitors till REALLY late at night. Butttttt my body started getting really pissed off that I wasn’t resting and trying to heal, so I started loosing baseball size blood clots, like a lot of them, and from that point on my OB’s orders were NO MORE VISITORS until I was fully healed. You and your partner have just brought home a whole new teeny tiny human that you need to learn how to keep alive, give yourself time for your body and for all of the emotion of coming home to settle in before you open the flood gates.

2. Sleep when the baby Sleeps

Every person you see before you give birth will tell you that you need to sleep when the baby sleeps, but my god do you ever need to do it and here’s where I’m favour of woman in this scenario who either just pushed a baby out of her vagina or had one literally cut out of her, WE NEED MORE SLEEP THEN YOU DO DADS! Can I say it again for the people in the back! Yes your husbands should and will need sleep and rest, its been a lot for them physically and mentally as well, but no where near what you and your body are going through and have been through. Let’s just be real they don’t need to recover physically from birth unless you broke their hands from squeezing so hard! So dads take a shot of espresso, drink an energy drink, take a cold shower, do something, anything to just get some extra energy, this will be the first time you need to be stepping up as a dad and supporting your partner so she can physically heal from birth. You will see mamas, you will already be using so much energy that you wont have in the first place to even just learn how to feed your child if you try breastfeeding and pumping so SLEEP as much as possible!

3. Self care

So its actually all fun and games until this child exits your body and makes its appearance, because they will leave your body bloody and broken, girlfriend you need to help it heal. I have spoken to some women who are just good to go from either vaginal or C-section but I can tell you that’s not the norm. I wish that upon all of you but lets just prepare ourselves for the higher chance that you will have a painful wound to heal.

Here’s the essentials for postpartum self-care;

  • You need to shower every single day! Keeping your stitches clean and bacteria away is very important, plus it will have you feeling mentally and physically refreshed, if only for a couple moments.
  • Take your pain medication! I wasn’t keeping proper track of this and when you wait to long it’s AWFUL ! We set a timer and I took Tylenol and Advil at the same time to help eliminate the chance of forgetting to take one.
  • Eat and stay hydrated. This is a BIG ONE especially if your breastfeeding or pumping. If you’re not eating or drinking enough fluids it will affect your milk supply and mood!

4. Take time to bond with your baby

After you give birth its like an emotional and hormonal hurricane that will hit you really fucking hard! Everything is new, your exhausted, you don’t have a lot of patience, you can experience a lot of overwhelming feelings of happiness and sadness within seconds of each other. All of that is a normal part of postpartum, and a lot of time we forget or are unaware that one of the most important aspects to help regulate your babies circulatory system as well as our own is just by bonding. Having PTSD I spent a lot of time in therapy working on how different factors after you’ve given birth can effect how you bond with your child. I found those new born cuddles and skin to skin were like a drug in the first couple of weeks. I would feel like I had nothing left inside of me and then literally get a whiff of Amadeo’s sent and it would all go away and everything felt right in the world again. It’s unexplainable really. Just remember to step back from all the craziness that your learning for the first time like , changing diapers, feeding etc and just enjoy some of these first moments and take that time to soak it in and embrace it.

5. Have your partner off with you for AT LEAST two weeks

I say partner because my husband is the only person that I am truly myself with. I don’t bottle things up to protect his feelings or tip toe around things because we know each other under all circumstances especially how we work under stress. I’m my authentic raw self with him and when there is soooooo much physical pain and emotional craziness going on you need to be around someone who will not fault you for being just whatever you need to be in that moment. The Canadian government is finally recognizing how important having both parents home during the first 6 weeks postpartum is, that come June 2019 a 6 weeks additional paid parental leave will be granted for the other parent not on maternity or paternity leave. This time is so important for your relationship, to learn how to take care of this little human that’s come into the life you’ve built together. I know in those first two weeks of having my husband home with Amadeo I saw so much strength and love from within him that was so different and I hadn’t experienced before in our 9 years together. You will become such a strong unit and team, after supporting each other, so soak up every minute of it, the good, bad and ugly.

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” I had no idea it would be this much. I had no idea that I could handle it. I had no idea how beautiful and worth it all actually is.”- unknown